One of the most important and effective internal personal mechanisms is the work of beliefs. A strong conviction in something forms a person’s corresponding picture of reality. The world around is not something that exists physically, but something that is perceived mentally through this matrix. Therefore, the role of beliefs in the mental life of an individual largely lies in changing oneself and one’s behavior under the influence of an appropriate way of thinking.
The Nature of Beliefs
Beliefs are recognized as a worldview component; they represent stable ideas, ideals, principles, and value judgments that directly influence a person’s actions and actions. Unlike suggestion, which most often appears unexpectedly, spontaneously, and is not reflected, conviction is based on a person’s meaningful acceptance of any information or ideas as true, and their in-depth analysis.
The emergence of beliefs is facilitated by either knowledge or faith, but their formation does not occur automatically, but is reinforced by life experience, feelings, experiences, and attitude to what is happening. We come to conviction in something either independently or under the influence of others. For a statement to become a belief, it must have evidence and be repeated many times. For example, parents instill in their child the idea that a carefree life is possible only in childhood, and in mature age A difficult, hopeless struggle for survival awaits everyone. Is it necessary to explain what negative role such attitudes play, how they can cause harm in life if you don’t fight them and overcome them.
Beliefs are emotionally experienced, become the motives of a person’s behavior and determine his attitude towards various areas reality. In many ways, they are subjective in nature, as an ideological result of the existence of a specific subject. Their “residence” is the deep layers of the human unconscious. Some beliefs get there in childhood, when critical thinking is not yet developed, and some - already in adulthood through the conscious adoption of a system of ideas.
The sources of beliefs are: parental family, educational institutions, friends and acquaintances, society as a whole, media, self-education and books, life experience, other factors. Their formation begins in early childhood, which is influenced by the way of life and traditions of the family. Mature beliefs appear in adolescence and adolescence, which is facilitated by knowledge, the thinking process, a critical attitude to reality, the formation of a worldview and an active life position. Often attitudes are laid down by people who are authoritative for a person, whose statements are not disputed due to their referentiality for a person.
What are the types of beliefs?
All existing beliefs can be classified on various grounds. For example, according to the content criterion, they can be scientific, political, moral, religious. According to the source from which they come, we can distinguish: personal and group beliefs. Thus, among personal ones, the following formulation is popular: “If...then” (“If I work hard and hard, I will achieve success”, “If I go to live in a metropolis, I will gain money and fame”). Popular group beliefs: “All men are assholes,” “All rich people are selfish,” “There are no miracles.” In psychology, beliefs are divided into positive and negative.
Positive beliefs are also called resource beliefs, meaning that they give strength to move forward, climb the ladder of self-development, and become better. They also have a beneficial effect on human health.
Examples of positive beliefs: “I can do it”, “I have the strength, I can handle it”, “I can succeed”, “Everything depends on me”, “I control the process of life”, “I respect and value people, they answer the same to me." As you can see, these kinds of beliefs are very similar to affirmations (you can find out more about them on our website).
Negative (negative) beliefs are called non-resourceful, inhibiting, limiting, as they provoke harm, destruction, and self-limitation of the individual. They block all useful undertakings of a person, form self-doubt, incompetence in their knowledge, actions and deeds. Those people who managed to achieve something in life are referred to by negative people as exceptions, lucky ones, “ones.”
Examples of negative beliefs: “Others can do it, but I don’t have the strength, means, time”, “It’s too late”, “Nothing can be done”, “I can’t”, “There’s no escape”, “We must submit to circumstances”, “I am powerless here.” Such formulations must be resisted, reworked into positive, resourceful ones.
The influence of beliefs on a person's lifestyle
The role of beliefs in our lives is enormous: they can determine the level mental abilities, influence health, form social connections, realize creative possibilities, promote personal happiness and success in life. You can say that a person is a prisoner own installations: often it is not he who chooses them, but vice versa. At all times, it was not the world that changed, but the people who perceived it differently in each era.
A person's beliefs about himself and his abilities are usually unchanged. They provide the necessary motivation, largely determine behavior, daily activities and are able to create a framework for human capabilities. They can be expanded to the size of the Universe, or they can be narrowed to the closed space of a matchbox - the main thing is to understand this process.
Under the influence of positive beliefs occurs personal growth. It’s not enough just to want to become better, increase your income, meet your other half, you need to be confident in this. There are many examples when a positive approach, supported by conviction in the result, accomplished the seemingly impossible - led people to recovery from the most dangerous diseases, improved health and appearance, made the placebo effect work, developed their extraordinary abilities to the point of automaticity creativity. So, to get rid of excess weight, you must, first of all, allow yourself to change, acquire psychological readiness to start losing weight, and then any methods can equally help.
A person’s positive attitude and love for life are extremely important here. If he is convinced that he can do something, then he will definitely do it; if he is sure that something is impossible, then he will not have enough strength to accomplish it. It is necessary to overcome restrictions invented by people themselves that have no real basis. The faster you can harmonize beliefs and behavior, the better the result is expected.
Is it possible to change beliefs and how to do it?
So, it is obvious what a high price a person pays for the existence of his erroneous attitudes. However, is it possible to rebuild them, change them, equip them with new ones that can lead us to new achievements? And how can this be done? Human history proves that even the most stable and undeniable beliefs can be destroyed. Thus, it was once believed that sacrifices must be made to the pagan gods, and that the Earth was in the center of the Cosmos.
You can change your strong, deep-seated negative attitudes through rational work and repeated repetition of positive beliefs. That is, we are essentially talking about reprogramming consciousness, updating one’s personality. Psychologists have proposed an approximate diagram of this process:
- In contrast to the belief that needs to be changed, a new one is formed, opposite in meaning, containing only positive emotions, without denial.
- It is supported by an evidence base for justification - relevant, weighty facts. For example, to gain confidence in your strengths and capabilities, it is useful to study the biographies of celebrities from poor families who became wealthy, or success stories of people with special needs. A lot of such evidence is required, and it must be presented regularly.
- The resulting belief must be sent to the subconscious. To do this, it is worked out in moments of relaxation of the shackles of consciousness, meditative practices, before going to bed, through affirmations. The time to displace the old installation and replace it with a new one depends only on personal diligence.
- It is advisable to create negative associations with old beliefs (they brought costs, losses), and positive associations with new ones (helped to achieve success, increase well-being).
Is it right to have beliefs in this day and age? The answer is simple and ridiculously obvious: good beliefs are right. But which beliefs are good? Checking this is easier than it might seem. If your beliefs lead to respect from others, making interesting and smart friends, and achieving challenging goals, then they are most likely correct. And vice versa.
Some people are convinced that life is an eternal struggle. They see everyone as rivals and enemies. And they buy them. Perhaps this is not the best belief, because it puts such people above others. If you learn to find an approach to people and interact effectively with them, this will indicate the correctness of your beliefs. Here's a list to think about.
Belief One: My life is an incredible gift.
Even in the most difficult situations, you can remember this simple thing: you are alive, you can interact with others and develop.
Notice the little things around you, be grateful for everything you have. This belief helps achieve a spiral effect: the better you think about your life, the better it becomes.
Belief Two: Everyone I meet is potentially my best friend.
Such is the human psyche: if we treat a stranger well, he often reciprocates. Therefore, treat new people like best friends. This strategy will help in acquiring acquaintances and who knows, maybe one day they will play a key role in your destiny.
If you consider everyone around you to be enemies, you will only receive enmity in return. You will make ill-wishers, get stressed, and expect a blow from everywhere. So which belief is better?
Belief three: the next 24 hours are the most important in my life.
There is no “tomorrow”, there is only “now” and “today”. The habit of believing that in a few days we will begin to change our lives leads to laziness and a complete inability to make decisions and act.
What happens today affects tomorrow and so on. So if you look forward to the next 24 hours, look for opportunities and develop yourself, it will give you strength for the coming days.
Give it your all today: that's the only thing you can do.
Belief four: everything will end well in the end
Agree, in most cases, all life’s troubles can be resolved. Fired from your job? This is an opportunity. A new challenge, a way to find worthy use of your abilities or develop new ones. Expelled from the university? Well, it's not the end of the world either. Find a job, become a professional, develop skills. Life is an eternal school, you just need to be constantly ready to perceive new things and learn.
Belief Five: Life is a game to be played, not a problem to be solved.
When we look at life as a game, we get a lot of positive emotions. IN otherwise- stress, anxiety, apathy, etc.
Agree, a person who sees a game in everything is able to cope with any difficulties. He just wonders why he made a mistake or failed. This is a scientific, inventive interest. Such a life becomes an adventure, a mystery and a mystery.
Conviction six: I will realize my potential to 100% no matter what and achieve success.
Conviction for the most courageous. What potential do you have? Don't lie, you think very well of yourself and think you deserve better. So maybe it's time to stop doing nonsense, complaining about fate and take matters into your own hands?
Don't wait for the right moment. Find your true passion and follow it to the end while absorbing new information, meeting new people and achieving serious goals.
Belief seven: No one cares what I really think.
All people think only about themselves. And they only care about their own problems. This is neither good nor bad: it is a given. They may think about you when you are in the spotlight, but then they will forget because everyone is surrounded by hundreds of small problems and dozens of big ones.
Stop what people think about you. It looks quite funny, actually.
Belief eight: asking questions is okay, saying “no” is okay too.
If you don't understand something, ask. Don't be shy to ask questions because people love to answer them.
Also remember that you can refuse any request. This doesn't mean saying no always, just know that you have the right.
Belief Nine: Change Yourself First
Some of us want to change the world and that is a laudable desire. But year after year passes and nothing happens.
If you change yourself first, the world will automatically begin to change itself. Friends and those closest to you will begin to gravitate towards you, you will become an example to follow. And then they will start listening to you.
We wish you good luck!
Examples of beliefs worth destroying:
Outdated Beliefs
Only lies can achieve success in life
There's never enough time to get everything done
Money is never enough
I can handle it on my own
All this shamanic stuff is completely unreal
People don't like it when I show emotions
It is very difficult for a woman to succeed, no matter how smart she is
Men bear all the hardships of life on their shoulders
Women don't make any sense
Men are callous animals
I have to take care of others
Everyone wants to ride me
I've always been unlucky
I've always been waiting for an opportunity
I never got ahead
I have to work very hard to get ahead.
Life sucks
To be happy I need something special
Only I can do this job
I never change
I'm better than the rest
No business is worth doing
Nobody loves me, nobody needs me
I'll never be healthy
Opposing Beliefs
Honesty will help me succeed in life
I have enough time to do everything I set my mind to
I always have enough money for my needs
I can ask for help when I need it
Shamanism is very real
People are sympathetic to my expressions of emotion.
A woman can be smart and successful
Women, like men, bear the hardships of life on their shoulders.
All people have meaning, including women
Men are generous and loving creatures
Spores have a tonic effect on me
I have to take care of myself first
Everyone wants to help me
I've always been lucky
I was the creator of my life
I move on easily
Life is always beautiful
I'm happy on my own
I'm one of many who can do this job
I change daily
Everyone else is good, just like me
You should do what you love
Everyone loves me and everyone cares about me
I'm always healthy
Exercise 3. Steps
1. Make a list of your beliefs.
2. For each opinion, write the opposite.
3. Tear and burn the list.
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Beliefs are internal attitudes that influence our lives. This is what we believe in. According to your faith, may it be rewarded to you; here we mean not only faith in God, but faith in general, in whatever it is, in everything.
Man is such a creature that most often he believes in the negative, and his beliefs are also most often negative. Even in childhood, parents can pass on these attitudes to their children, who can influence them throughout their lives. Therefore, it is important to be aware of them and eliminate their influence.
What are limiting beliefs
First of all, you need to understand what these beliefs are that limit a person. These are certain internal attitudes that sit in the subconscious of people and limit their success and .
For example, if a person believes that it is hard to earn money, then he will earn it hard, but not because it is so, but because he believes in it. After all, there are people who earn income, and quite easily.
It is important to understand that what you believe in is what you will get. Faith is the key. You need to stop believing in what is not beneficial for you and start believing in what benefits you.
If, for example, a person, for example a woman, thinks that all men are goats, then only goats will be attracted to her, but not because they are all like that, but because she believes in it.
Moreover, you cannot judge all men, there are billions of them on earth, and among them there are definitely good guys.
And there are thousands and thousands of such attitudes in a person’s head, or rather in his subconscious, and all of them taken together limit a person’s capabilities; a bunch of examples can be given.
Examples of limiting beliefs
For example, a mother raised her daughter alone. Because she was left alone, her husband left her, she will tell her daughter what kind of men are traitors and that they only want sex. Naturally, the daughter will grow up and project onto men the reality that her mother imposed on her, and in the end, if the daughter does not come to her senses, she will remain as lonely as her mother.
There are different beliefs:
- I'm not handsome;
- they don't love me;
- Nobody needs me;
- the world is cruel;
- there are enemies all around;
- life is survival;
- all rich people are thieves;
- all people are deceivers;
- there is one scam everywhere;
- making money is difficult.
You can list them endlessly, you need to understand that they all sit in the subconscious and influence your reality, you are surrounded by exactly what you believe in. Moreover, you may not even know that it is in you, it’s just that in childhood one of the adults was nearby, communicated with someone, and you heard how this person, when communicating, told someone that the world is cruel or that all women love money, or no love, whatever, and you grow up and won’t notice how you look at the world the same way as that person.
This needs to be taken into account and cleared , yours from all rubbish.
You need to have a pure subconscious, then life is much easier.
Internal conflicts
A lot of people live in constant conflict with themselves.
A person wants wealth and success consciously, but subconsciously he is so accustomed to himself as a loser that he does not want to change anything. It turns out to be a conflict. And the person doesn’t know what’s the matter, why he can’t get along with his finances.
It is very important to cleanse the subconscious, otherwise you will have conflicts upon conflicts and you will take one step forward and take two steps back.